You know I really had a moment when on Glee Sebastian had that flashback with him and Dave at the club. I honestly feel like that is the biggest problem I have with the gay community (at least in my city) they are so unconcerned with others feeling and so focused on how “hot” someone is, I understand people have personal preference and I can handle that, its the “how dare you think you have a chance with me” that absolutely disgust me. I know that is a biggest hurdle i’ve had into feeling apart of a community. People are so involved with how skinny or muscular someone is. I just know that feeling. I hated my body for so long that I wanted to be invisible and I felt like no one even wanted to even get to know me let alone date. You think after you come out its all gonna me easy after that and these people are going to just be so welcoming and nice and your gonna make so many friends, and for me that didn’t happen and even now its really hard for me to befriend other gays. It’s something that not the straight community made me feel, it was the gay community. So coming out (to me) wasn’t the biggest hurtle its feeling and being accepted by my new found community. I just want people in our community to think twice about it. I know I always make a point to be polite to guys weather I’m interested or not if they want to be friends or more.